I love celebrating milestones, events and anniversaries. Since having kids I’ve definitely gone next level for them, celebrating and documenting every single special occasion.
For Poppy’s birthday recently, I ensured we had a special birthday card for her. In fact, because I couldn’t choose between a couple of cute princess ones, she received one ‘from Teddy’ too.
I wish I could say I do the same for all of the other special people in my life, but the truth is I don’t anymore- and it’s not just me.
It’s become a little too easy for us to be reminded of birthdays and special anniversaries on social media. You write a quick post or text message, whack in a heap of emojis, maybe even add a funny gif for that “personal touch”. I’m soooo guilty of this.
I used to send my friends and family beautiful, thoughtfully selected cards with the inside message carefully dissected, the front design being one I hand-picked as being perfect for that person (pat on the back Tara, you’ve outdone yourself!). I think the problem is that now we all feel too busy.
A recent Omnipoll study showed that in the past year only 51 per cent of people surveyed had mailed a card even though the majority acknowledged that a card in the mail shows more effort.
Maybe in this day and age of being increasingly connected to our devices and the online world, we all still crave and value a little ‘old school’ communication where someone has made a special effort.
Before social media posts like “Happy Birthday Friend, have a great day!” became commonplace, I used to stockpile greeting cards. I kept all of the upcoming birthdays and events in mind and bought a bunch so that I had a stash ready to send off to my loved ones and besties on special occasions. That was back when I was super organised. Life is busy now and its hard to find the time- or at least that’s what I’ve been telling myself.
The reality is, it really doesn’t take long to pick up a pen and write a personalised note to a loved one or family member and give them some meaningful communication.
Melbourne-based psychologist Dr. Melissa Keogh says it’s psychologically beneficial for both the person sending the card as well as the person receiving it.
After Teddy was born I actually did take the time to write a card to my mum and dad- a note like I’ve never written them before. I told them how grateful I was that they got up in the middle of the night and drove 3 hours to Melbourne so they could be with Poppy whilst Teddy was being born. I told them how the memory of them walking into the delivery room with expectant smiles to see their brand new grandchild for the first time would be one of the happiest and most memorable moments of my life. My family isn’t really a touchy-feely family. We don’t usually express emotions and we’re almost a little uncomfortable with displays of affection for one another (favouring humour) but I’m so glad I wrote that note because it was heartfelt, it was the truth and life is too short for these things to be left unsaid.